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Introducing Daily Tips for Sensitives

You are not alone in how deeply you experience this world. There are so many of us. Let's come together. The world needs us the way we are wired.

Welcome to Mud to Majesty, my coaching practice and community space for Sensitives (Highly Sensitive People, empaths, deep feelers and thinkers, intuitive, spiritually-inclined, kind-hearted and gentle people.) My coaching practice, YouTube Channel, Daily Tips for Sensitives, and all my content is meant to support you. 

I specialize in working with Spiritually-Inclined Sensitives, Creatives, Survivors, my Queer Family, and anyone who resonates with my material. *For Coaching click here.

Daily Tips For Sensitives:
The  Boundaries  Series

This video series is all about setting boundaries, SENSITIVE STYLE! Everyone on the healing journey can benefit from learning about healthy boundaries. But as a Sensitive, there is so much more to it.

​I hope you will find my new videos helpful as you learn about what you want, prioritize what you need, and protect your incredible and unique constitution.

1 minute Introduction Video

On my healing journey, learning how to set boundaries gave me my personal power and autonomy back. It can be hard at first. But you deserve to have your life FEEL like your own. I'm with you in this. 

<3 Your Loyal Knight ​

QuickTips: Don't Compare Yourself To Less Sensitive People

​As a Highly Sensitive Person, it's a simple biological fact we're processing more information than the average person. It is not better or worse, just different. But judging, fighting or denying our sensitivity leads to suffering. I spent to too many years treating my sensitivity as something that made me inferior to others. Now I focus on how to create a life that supports my unique nature. Here is a quote that really brought it home for me:

“We are a package deal, however. Our trait of sensitivity means we will also be cautious, inward, needing extra time alone. Because people without the trait (the majority) do not understand that, they see us as timid, shy, weak, or that greatest sin of all, unsociable. Fearing these labels, we try to be like others. But that leads to our becoming over-aroused and distressed. Then that gets us labeled neurotic or crazy, first by others and then by ourselves.” -Elaine N. Aron 

Let's come together tribe, and focus on the strengths of our sensitivity. Nobody can attune to others, to what is needed, to what is felt, quite like we can. Our sensitivity is beautiful. Our sensitivity is our superpower. ​
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Overstimulation, HSP Hangovers,
and Boundaries ​with Being Busy

In this series, I'm diving into the topic of boundaries to support my clients and tribe. So whether you relate to being an empath, HSP, or just ‘feel or think about things deeply,’ this will help. With so much energy and information going through us even in complete stillness, a busy day will be ten times more intense than for someone who is not a Sensitive. Please acknowledge this for yourself, you deserve it. You may feel overwhelmed or pulled in every direction, not knowing where to start. 

One tip to make it easier: Have a plan. Intention is everything. If we want to see where the world will take us like a feather in the wind, that is EXACTLY how our day will be. And, don’t get me wrong, if you know my work, you know I am an advocate of how to live in the flow. The key is bringing conscious intent to that flow. So whether you make a plan the night before, the morning of, or can break through your day for some 2-minute‘ wellness and redirect’ check-ins, you will find it makes all the difference in the world. 
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Bonus tip: In making a plan remember you are a Sensitive. Let go of the shoulds or comparisons in what could be accomplished in one day. Make a compassionate plan that honors and takes care of your beautiful ‘all systems on, psychic, emotional, and sensory processing system!’ We need breaks, downtime and a ‘less is more’ attitude to stay balanced. ​
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How To Decide If An
​Opportunity Is For You:
Boundaries With Invitations

It’s hard enough to establish and maintain boundaries for anyone figuring out what they want and learning how to prioritize themselves! Make that ten times harder for an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person. Why? Because we are not just feeling what we are feeling, we are (throughout our entire body, mind, and soul) feeling what the other person is feeling!  When considering an invitation, it's  really difficult when we feel how much the other person wants us to say yes. Give yourself credit for showing up for what YOU want. Let me validate and support you as you dig yourself out from under all that external energy!

Right now there are ENDLESS opportunities for self-development, virtual classes, community, groups, and hanging out with your peeps. We are lucky to have choices. But, Empaths and Sensitives need to be protective of our magnetically amplified systems, more is not better here. Being indiscriminately more social and active can be draining to the point you lose your center completely. Has anyone ever heard of an HSP hangover? No Bueno.

One tip to make it easier: How you feel in your body when you receive an invitation is your psychic knowing of how it will be to attend. I know you already know this. Today’s tip is just an added permission slip from your humble Loyal Knight. Your gut instincts are always right. I just help my clients make sure it's not a trigger blocking them from a yes, that is a whole different topic. When you are not triggered, you can accurately read your body. YOUR BODY KNOWS ALL. And, whether that invitation is not good for you in general, or your body is just aware of being too booked up that particular day or week, trust it.

QuickTip: How to Come Down
From an Emotional Flood or Trigger.
​Boundaries With Your Feelings

As Sensitives (my umbrella term for Empaths, HSPS, Highly Sensitive People, big feelers, thinkers, etc.) we process our experience at a very deep level. From our bodily sensations, energetic antenna, to our thoughts and emotions, it can be A LOT. Add trauma to that and it's really hard. Me and my clients have benefited greatly from practicing how to not let our internal experiences completely overtake us. For details and a great technique for regulating yourself FAST, see my extended video on this topic, below.  I am with you in this.

Extended Video: How to Come Down
From an Emotional Flood or Trigger.
​Boundaries With Your Feelings

Here is one of my favorite techniques. This video is 15 minutes so I can fully present it, but with practice, you can use this technique and start feeling relief faster than you would expect! Create boundaries with your feelings by first becoming your own loving witness. You may have to sit down with yourself for a few minutes throughout the day to develop these muscles. The good news is a little goes a long way!

Here's the technique: 

*Find a comfortable, private (or semi-private place.) I used to go sit in my car on my lunch break!

*Pause and ground, like you would in the first minute of a guided relaxation cd or a yoga class. Example: take a few deep breaths and notice you are ok, here and now. It can help you get into the present moment by tuning into physical sensations like sounds, touch, temperature, etc.

*From here, do a quick internal scan. Notice how you are feeling. What is loudest? Tune into that part with the compassion you would offer your best friend or child.

*Really HEAR that feeling, thought, or internal sensation. Be with it as long as it feels right.

*Reassure that part of you. Offer it love. Usually, it will start to ease up. But if that doesn't happen it's ok! Developing these muscles of being your own loving witness takes practice. In the moments it has not worked for me I say “It’s ok that its not ok. It’s ok it’s this hard right now. I know this really sucks,” Etc.

​*And then remind yourself you will always come back to you, you will check back in soon.

QuickTip: Figure Out What's Yours
& Trust How People Make You Feel.
​Boundaries With People

When it comes to setting healthy boundaries, there's more to it for Sensitives. It starts with energetic boundaries. We are not just healing codependence or learning how to focus on our own life, we are learning how to not be internally taken over by the other person's energy and emotions. So if you are a Sensitive struggling with boundaries, please give yourself the credit you deserve. It's a multi-faceted challenge. Check out the Extended Video below for a How-To Exercise!

Extended Video: Figure Out What's Yours
& Trust How People Make You Feel.
​Boundaries With People

Let's go through a How-To Exercise together, so you first stop processing other people's energy.

​Then, also in this video,  let's explore TRUSTING how people make you feel, and sticking with your gut. 

​One tip to Make it Easier:  In order to create healthy boundaries with others, start by knowing what is energetically yours vs. theirs. Recognize that your sensitivity is a form of psychic awareness. So when you tune into yourself and feel strong sensations first ask  “Is this mine?*”

You might be processing someone else’s experience, and that will block you from identifying your own. Most of my clients find this exercise to be helpful and use it as a clearing meditation to fully release what’s not theirs from their bodies.

*Exercise “Is This Mine?” By Mary Mueller Shutan

My Intention Behind These Videos​

My intention behind these videos is to create a safe, community space and forum for support. All respectful comments are welcome, and you can post through YouTube, Twitter, Facebook or Instagram! And, you sharing your experience in the comments could really help someone today. It's our collective wisdom that makes the most difference. 🙏

Check out Videos From June 2022! 

Not Knowing Versus Not Making The Time to Know

​Tuesday

Healing Trauma Starter Video

​Wednesday​

Spiritual Concepts That Get In The Way of Recognizing Abuse

​Thursday​

Trust When You Can't Be Vulnerable With Someone

​Friday

Recovering Perfectionist, Burn The Rice

​Saturday

Making Your Purpose a Priority, What Gets In The Way 

"Erin is a fantastic coach. Working with her has given me the opportunity to be able to dig deep into what was holding me back to achieve my goals. She provides the space for you to figure out what it is you want and the steps needed to get you to that place. There is an enormous amount of care and understanding that she puts into her work." -H.J.

"I have been working with Erin for several years now and it is the brightest part of my life! She holds a caring space for me to confide, share and explore the areas of my life that are sometimes difficult to work on by myself. Her experience, learnings, insights and encouragement are tools that help me to uncover and discover the inner needs that are true to my self awareness and acceptance. I highly recommend a session as it will change your life and help you feel apart of the world around you at a deeper and more meaningful level!"  -J.D.
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MY TRAINING​ 

I am a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Certified Integrative Health Coach, and Advocate to End Domestic Violence. As of February 2022, I am enrolled in the Compassionate Inquiry Training Program for Practitioners. 
All of my training reflects my core values to support you in an integrative manner; considering all aspects of your health and wellbeing as the path toward wholeness, and relating to you as the expert and sovereign of your own life. 

*For a complete list of my training and experience, see my bio here. ​

WHAT IS A HEALTH &
​WELLNESS ​COACH? 

"Health & wellness coaches partner with clients seeking to enhance their well-being through self-directed, lasting changes, aligned with their values. In the course of their work, health & wellness coaches display an unconditional positive regard for their clients and a belief in their capacity for change, honoring the fact that each client is an expert on their own life, while ensuring that all interactions are respectful and non-judgmental." 

​-The National Board ofHealth and Wellness Coaches ​​​